A Twin Cities woman is pushing back against men who verbally harass her on downtown Minneapolis streets(and presumably anywhere else):
A woman has turned a hidden camera on her Minneapolis street harassers, filming men who make sexually suggestive comments about her appearance as she walks downtown. The clips, published on her website, include the confrontations that ensue when she asks the men to explain themselves. One man’s response: “I’m surprised that you’re offended by it.”
Not only offended, she built the website and has begun passing out cards to wolf-whistling men that bluntly tell them to stop.
Most women I know usually ignore cat calls unless they reach a certain level of rudeness or vulgarity, which seems to vary, as does the response. The woman in this story, Lindsey, seems to be taking a zero tolerance stance or close to it, which is her right. I'll leave it to the reader to watch the videos at her site and decide on your own if her perspective is right or wrong or a mix of both.
My perspective on women in public is that it's okay for men to look, but rude for them to stare. It's loutish to catcall a woman passing by, but there are times when it's okay to offer a strange woman a hello or other pleasantry. I mean, it's one thing to call out to a woman on the street and another to talk as we're waiting for the bus or an elevator. I wouldn't start a conversation with "That's a lovely dress," but I can see where it may come up depending on the signals I'm getting. Am I wrong there?
Based on her "About" page, it appears Lindsey has a reasonable understanding of what she can accomplish with her project and website. It's not some quixotic attempt to stamp out verbal harassment of women in public. Which is good, because some woman like the catcalls, at least to some extent, and the truth is it works for guys sometimes. That's why some men continue to do it, and will continue to do it despite getting confronted about it. On the other hand, perhaps a few louts will learn some manners. I just hope Lindsay, or any other women for that matter, doesn't end up getting punched in the process. Some of those kinds of guys don't take constructive criticism very well.
For what it's worth, I don't personally witness the verbal harassment of women very often. Part of it may be that I don't get downtown very much and it's more common there than my suburban life, and that in turn could be due to people walking to and from places there while in the 'burbs we tend to drive. Not that it can't, or doesn't, happen pretty much anywhere. It just tends to be more prevalent in some locations than others.
I'm not sure what else to say except I would not raise a son to be the sort to verbally harass a woman. I would try very hard to instill better manners than that. But I'm not going to own or apologize for what other men do, anymore than I would expect offended women to apologize for the other women who encourage catcalling. Heck, I think the guys most likely to do this stuff tend to be the bad boy types most women go for anyway. Go figure.
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